- The Past- Your Personal Tour Guide: Quite simple, you know what the outcome was from certain actions or behaviors; do not block those negative occurrences out when they come to mind, but do not dwell on them either. Remember whatever brought you to that place in your life, think about how it made you feel, and try to make different choices that will not lead you to a similar situation.
- Create a Personal Relationship With Yourself: On what may have been my life defining journey, I was forced to spend a lot of time alone, which gave way to introspective thinking. Looking inside yourself and learning what you really like and do not like, coming to terms with your fears and insecurities will lead to fruitful living. For example: most people want to be in an intimate relationship and look for certain types of partners, but end up settling for someone who may have two of the 10 qualities they would like. Do NOT settle. The only thing standing in your way is fear. In this case, it is the fear of being alone long enough until the right person comes along. As long as you have the gift of life, you should always strive for what you truly think you deserve in life. Fear often attacks our inner being, coupled with negative people and surroundings it can be crippling. Fend off fear by being honest and true to yourself!
- Do or Say At Least One Positive Thing a Day: It is important to replace negative words and thoughts with positive ones. I am what I think. I can say something or portray a certain image, but my hidden thoughts define who I really am. If you want to be a better person, try a better way of thinking.
- Validate Yourself: It is nice to be complimented or praised by others, but what feels even nicer is your appreciation for yourself. Do not wait for that pat on the back from you boss, significant other or friend if you know you performed well at something, pat yourself on the back. Just as quickly as someone can make you feel good, they can make you feel worse. Embrace all your qualities so that you can refute the words and actions of those who may try to stop your joy.
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