Sunday, January 29, 2012
Fork in The Road
Life is good for maneuvering people away from smooth paths, and onto rocky roads full of unexpected bumps. Those bumps differ from size and severity and can leave us feeling helpless, and full of despair. But no matter how deep or how much damage has been done, take solace in the fact that, if you manage not to lose your mind or commit suicide, your time on that bumpy road will pass.
Those unexpected forks in the road are the only ways to test things that we hold dear like intimate relationships, friendships or even success. What would life and the people and circumstances in it be if there were no tribulations? How could we appreciate amatory feelings without knowing what the adverse feelings are? How could we test the depths of our own spirituality or our strengths?
The beauty in all bad is the ability to overcome, and learn from it.
This blog came to mind due to my conversation with someone on Twitter who has strong, negative opinions of formerly incarcerated individuals. If the majority of people in this world were as judgmental as that particular person, they would be living an ignorantly, blissful, denial filled existence, since there is not a person alive who is flawless or free from character defects. But like bad situations, judgmental people are necessary because they display a behavior that we all should be mindful not to immulate.
Ever since my release from prison a year and a half ago, I have not had too many complaints. But, as life would have it, I recently hit yet another fork in the road. I have since realized it is relatively small in comparison to greater obstacles I have encountered in my lifetime. I literally employed these steps to help me feel better about it:
1-Allowed Myself to Feel: When you try to fight against your emotions you will lose every time; instead, let your emotions run their course.
2- Accepted It: I had to tell myself this is the situation, and I have no choice but to deal with it.
3-Thought of the Good That May Come Out of It: Found it too
4-Redirected My Focus: None of us have just one thing on our minds, we have multiple priorities. My main one is getting my next novel out to my readers, and that's where the majority of my energy is being focused.
See, when you have survived a life changing circumstance, it becomes a hell of a lot easier to follow the steps described above. We all have survived something from job loss to disappointments. And I am certain good things came out of those situations. Therefore, the next time you think your world is coming to an end, think about the last time your world CAME TO AN END, make the words This will pass your personal mantra. When it does, do not forget to bask in the glory of surviving unscathed, stronger and wiser.
In Good Health and High Spirits,
Author of Heads or Tails? Geminis Don't Choose